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LET'S TALK... SEX!
With Carolyne Nakazibwe
Did you know that you can take one look at someone and
know they are getting good sex or none at all? Well, some
actually are getting some, but could as well feature among
the ones who get none at all.
From the way things go in the marriage, one person seems
to get all the grooves, while the other party acts as a
sex toy that walks away empty handed. S/he cannot really
talk about the benefits of good sex, however often they
may romp between the sheets in a week.
But to tell a spouse who has his/her sex and eats it too,
the effects will be similar to those registered after a
couple of enjoyable workouts in a gym or aerobics class.
The unmistakable glow, the relaxed stance, the stress-free
interactions and more importantly, the health bonus!
But dare bump into a sexually frustrated spouse! Hell hath
no fury like a woman driven to the brink of an orgasm and
left there, high and dry. She may not act like a bitch that
is known to kill a teaser dog that whets its appetite and
walks away without doing the honours, but you will tell
from how often she nags and quarrels. The road to the return
to sanity lies therein; giving your wife great sex.
A man may survive on the effects of the fact that he did
let off some energy in form of an ejaculation and the exertion,
but if a woman does not attain an orgasm, she can be…dangerous,
for lack of a better word.
My own theory is this: Men think women nag by nature. No.
I believe a sexually-satisfied woman has only time to purr
contentedly. Unfortunately, it is only a handful of women
who are doing this purring, because remember, surveys put
the number as high as 80%, of women who have never experienced
an orgasm their entire lives. Scandal! And you wonder why
the poor woman pecks at you the moment you step through
that door? You owe her, that is why. Because most women
are very shy when it comes to talk about sex and what they
prefer or detest, they settle for less. And when you hear
her complaining about everything and nothing, then know
the trapped energy is boiling in there like a volcano.
For your own sanity, throw in more time to give more during
the lovemaking and make sure your wife is part of the 20%
statistics. Don’t just collapse on top of her after
your ‘workout’, not caring if she enjoyed it
or not.
That can only mean you wake up a very relaxed and hyper-mood
husband, with a grumpy and irritable wife. The result? Nag,
nag, nag.
Sex for exercise
To push these benefits home for you, here is what the UK’s
National Health Service discovered about good sex:
The NHS has some new advice for people struggling to schedule
a fitness routine into their daily lives - a workout between
the sheets.
According to the NHS, “sexercise” can lower
the risk of heart attacks and helps people live longer.
Endorphins released during orgasm stimulate immune system
cells, which also helps target illnesses like cancer, as
well as wrinkles, it states.
Sexual health experts said such claims could not be scientifically
proven.
“It’s good to see the NHS are promoting sexual
wellbeing,” Dr Melissa Sayer told the Guardian newspaper.
“Yes, there is evidence that sex has benefits for
mental wellbeing, but to say there is a link with reduced
risk of heart disease and cancer is taking the argument
too far.”
NHS Direct, however, told the paper the content was “backed
by science and clinical evidence” and “isn’t
just a bit of fun”.
The advice, published under the headline “Get more
than zeds in bed”, is one of several sexual health-related
articles to be found on the NHS Direct website.
Sex with a little energy and imagination provides a workout
worthy of an athlete, the article says.
“Forget about jogging round the block or struggling
with sit-ups. Sex uses every muscle group, gets the heart
and lungs working hard, and burns about 300 calories an
hour.”
The advice suggests regular romps could lead to a better
body and a younger look.
Increased production of endorphins “will make your
hair shine and your skin smooth,” it adds.
“If you’re worried about wrinkles - orgasms
even help prevent frown lines from deepening.”
The article goes on to say that orgasms release “painkillers”
into the bloodstream, which help keep mild illnesses like
colds and aches and pains at bay.
The production of extra oestrogen and testosterone hormones
“will keep your bones and muscles healthy, leaving
you feeling fabulous inside and out”.
So, do you need any more cajoling?
carol@ugandaobserver.com
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