| Archived
4st November 2007 |
| The real meaning
of coffee |
| And in China, if you are naïve
enough to gulp down someone’s coffee without knowing
the consequences, you will only have yourself to blame
if you get raped afterwards |
| OBSERVER LOUNGE
|
Problem
I am 25 and have been dating a beautiful lady
for the last nine years. I messed up last year and impregnated
another lady; I felt I should tell her because I love
her so much, so that she could not hear it from someone
else. |
| Who said you
can't romp and breed? |
LET'S TALK... SEX!
Will we ever exhaust this particular one? Why do people
switch their sex life off for nine months just because
there is a bun in their oven? |
| I turned down
a woman |
One Man's ramblings
How many men do you know that would turn
down a chance of moving out with an American girl
who actually does the chasing? |
| Men getting
so bashful |
SINGLETON'S EPISTLE
Is it just me or have men become really timid out
there? Recently, in the line of duty, I found myself
in a room with three single guys. |
| Of friends
and lovers |
BOYS NIGHTOUT
It is Friday evening at The Venue when Steve, 34, and
33-year-old age mates Pascal and Johnny are reflecting
over the challenges men face. |
| The in-law
blues |
GIRLS RECLINE
Stella is in China, shopping for a boutique she plans
to open. Elle, 28, Joanna, 26, and Sheba, 36, are still
pondering over whether to go check out the trade fair
or stay at Joanna's apartment and watch The Bold and
The Beautiful. |
| An inevitable
visit to jajja |
COLLECTIONS OF A SINGLE MUM
The first night is okay, I actually enjoy
spending time with my
baby...listening to her babble away as she explores
the tiny living room... |
| Would you
marry from the same family as your brother or sister?
|
STREET TALK
Alex Magyezi, 21, student
What matters to me is having a crush on someone; simple.
Provided she’s not my blood relative, why can’t
I fall in love with her even if my brother or sister
invested in their sibling already? |
| Crossfire
|
Gladly
Love is blind. Probably the oldest adage
I have heard everyone recite from time to time. So
long as you love someone, nothing should stop you
from having a relationship with them. |
| Archived
25th October 2007 |
| When match
- fixing is okay |
| LET'S TALK... SEX!
When was the last time you seduced your
spouse? I mean, the last time you woke up in the morning
with the sole purpose of seeing to it that there would
be gloriously wonderful sex in that marriage? |
| My trade fair
experience |
One Man's ramblings
It is not a long time that beer, women, and loud music
sent my blood to boiling point. |
| When did October
get here? |
SINGLETON'S EPISTLE
For lack of something better to do, I have
been taking stock of 2007 so far. The results are
neither promising, nor disheartening. Simply nothing
to write home about. |
| Our Private
Angels (PAs) |
Boys Night out
Pascal, is turning 33 and Steve, 34,
Johnny, 33, expect him for Lunch at the Crocodile
Restaurant. Twenty minutes after the appointed time,
the man of the moment shows up talking on his mobile. |
| Dressing that
kills! |
| GIRLS RECLINE
It is Idd: Stella, 32, is spending the
day with Alur in Jinja. Elle, 28, Joanna, 26, and
Sheba, 36, are on their way to Kawempe where an old
friend has invited them for an Idd lunch. |
| Nanny’s
day off |
COLLECTIONS OF A SINGLE MUM
Maids our nemesis, and yet we can’t
live without them! Some are really good though, like
Bahati’s nanny, my maid. |
| Would you
follow your partner wherever they got a job? |
STREET TALK
Agnes Analo, 23, beautician
If he’s trustworthy, I would let him go alone.
But I can’t give up a well paying job to follow
my partner wherever he goes. |
| OBSERVER LOUNGE
|
Problem
I have been with my girlfriend since 2002 but
we have not been living together. Our families know
each other and last year we got a son.
Now both our families are against our relationship
continuing yet we want to get married what do we do? |
| Archived
18th October 2007 |
| …then
she went off like a gun! |
LET'S TALK SEX!
Someone is in pain over this thing called PMS –
Premenstrual Syndrome. She literally bounces off the
walls a few days before her menstruation kicks in,
and for that period, her husband, children and house-help
live under a reign of terror. |
| It’s
a cosy boat |
SINGLETON'S EPISTLE
You know that warm fuzzy feeling of consolation you
get when someone else joins your boat of misery? Well,
it hit me recently and the source of it is even more
comforting. |
| Deja vu, as
old friend calls me |
One Man's ramblings
Saturday morning began with two rare missed calls
from an old female pal. |
| OBSERVER LOUNGE
|
Problem
I have a girlfriend who is in her
second year at the university. But I am worried she
is seeing another man. She does not want to meet my
relatives neither does she want me to meet hers. |
| Guys that
'beat' girls |
BOYS NIGHT OUT
Elle, the sassy girl, is still stirring up Steve,
34, Johnny, 33 and Pascal, 32, at Good Fellas at the
Grand Imperial. Peeping at Johnny's newspaper, she
seems taken in by the picture of a bulging rugby player…
So, will the guys play rugby |
| The little
girls we call men |
GIRLS RECLINE
Elle, 28, Joanna, 26, Sheba, 36 and Stella,
32 wind up the shopping spree with coffee at Aroma
Cafe. |
| Old flame
up to something |
COLLECTIONS OF A SINGLE MUN
He called...must have been around 2:00 am
... I was roused from my sleep by this vibrating sound...
squinting and still sleepy I could not quite see the
number on the screen... |
| What would
you do if a stranger raped you [your girlfriend] and
you became pregnant? |
STREET TALK
Fiona Tuhirirwe, 24, student
Why abort? Rape is bad and damaging to one’s
esteem but it’s not the child’s fault;
why kill it? I would love my child wholeheartedly
regardless of how much the rape haunts me. |
| Crossfire |
That beast!
Okay! So my sweetheart has been raped (God
forbid)!
Even worse, she is pregnant. I can only imagine that
this would be a most trying moment. More so because
there are no easy solutions! |
| Archived
11th October 2007 |
| Love outside
the fairy tale |
| Prince Charming. That is the guy who
features most in about every girl’s teenage years!
Every straight girl, at some point, may start to entertain
some secret Prince Charming in her fantasy |
| OBSERVER LOUNGE
|
Problem
I have been with my boyfriend for two years. Recently
he confessed that all he had told me about himself were
lies. His parents, their occupations, where he lives,
his childhood and family were all not true. |
| The reason
why you need to get a grip |
LET'S TALK ... SEX!
It is easier to blame it on the rain, on
the neighbour who let his cat onto your side of the
fence, or even the visiting in-laws when the sex takes
a nose dive in a marriage. |
| Where are
Arua's women? |
One Man's ramblings
A couple of days back, I arrived in Arua
as the town’s usual hustle and bustle was slowing
down. It was ticking towards 4pm, and finding nice
accommodation and taking a shower was priority number
one. |
| Are you a
placeholder? |
SINGLETON'S EPISTLE
I once had a guy hit on me. Really hard! And he fared
quite well, pushing me to a point where I threw all
caution to the wind and tried to give the friendship
between us a chance to bud to something more. |
| Stretching
girls' luck |
BOYS NIGHTOUT
Steve, 34, Johnny, 33 and Pascal, 32
are relaxing as they watch Big Brother Africa 2 at
Good Fellas at the Grand Imperial. Elle, the stubborn
ka-gal they met at Kembabazi bumps into them. |
| For old times'
sake? |
GIRLS RECLINE
It is Sunday night and the girls now seemingly
addicted to Big Brother Africa 2 are gathered at 36-year-old
Sheba's pad to watch the live eviction together. Joanna,
26, is sipping orange juice, as Stella, 32, takes coffee.
Elle, 28, is on a diet and has hardly eaten in days! |
| Dealing with
my copycat |
COLLECTIONS OF A SINGLE MUM
Another thing that just amazes me about Bahati
is her reaction to music, any music! Dancing seems to
be an inborn gift... |
| Would you
break-up if you found out that your partner had a hereditary
disease? |
STREET TALK
Carolyne Namyalo, 22, Communications officer
I can leave someone if there’s a relationship
problem like infidelity but not sickness. But, if
it came to marriage, I would reconsider because why
dive into it if I’m sure I will end up producing
sicklers? We’ve to be wise too. |
| CROSSFIRE |
It depends
By Michael Mubangizi
Deciding to or not to marry someone with
a hereditary disease can be difficult if you love
the person and the only defect is the ailment. |
| Archived
4th October 2007 |
| A scientific
way to love forever |
“I want to end this relationship;
it is all dull and boring, it has lost steam,”
a 27-year-old man once told me. I agreed with him.
|
| OBSERVER LOUNGE
|
| Problem
I have known this guy for five years.
Although he says he knew me before I knew him. Recently
he said he had feelings for me and wanted us to try
an affair. I told him I would think about it. |
| As the beat
goes on... |
LET'S TALK SEX!
By the way, sex too has a beat. Did you know
that? And one of the better secrets to good loving
is developing a beat or rhythm in every aspect of
your life, even lovemaking. |
| Love has eluded
me |
One Man's ramblings
Love. That is something that has never struck me. I
normally see grown up men trying to move mountains all
in the name of love, and I am like – are they
out of their damn minds? |
| Paying my way
|
One Man's ramblings
I’m sure I’ve said before that
the upside of being single is the so many dates –
when they come your way. Now, I hope I didn’t
mislead any budding singles into thinking dating is
about the man footing all the bills. |
| Would you consider
surrogate motherhood? |
STREET TALK
Anita Ino, 26, Sales Supervisor
This is a life-saver. If I can’t conceive normally
yet I’ve my eggs and there are women who can
help carry my child in their womb; I would jump to
the opportunity and I’d return the favour too
without hesitation. |
| Crossfire
|
Too much for me to bear
You wake up with nausea, feeling like you
are lifting a heavy duty truck on your shoulders. That
nagging feeling that makes you want to throw up kicks
at the pit of your stomach. |
| I
don't miss Taata Bahati |
| COLLECTIONS
OF SINGLE MUM
She is learning how to kiss...what a nice
feeling! Although it might be rather clumsy, it’s
the thought that my Bahati is beginning to reciprocate
the love that just warms me up! |
| Girl through
the bottle |
BOYS NIGHTOUT
A common friend is wedding. After the
service at All Saints Cathedral, Steve, 34, Pascal,
32, and Johnny, 33, are enjoying the 'real' wedding
at Kyambogo Main Hall. For predictable reasons, Pascal
thinks Johnny has had one too many…. |
| Dressing
for the in-laws |
GIRLS RECLINE
I drive Elle, 28, Stella, 32, and Joanna, 26,
to Sheba's house to find the 36-year-old surrounded
by piles of clothes… |
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